what men & women want

So what do men and women want? At the core they both want to be loved, trusted, desired, appreciated, respected, feel safe to be vulnerable and most of all someone to share the good, the bad and the ugly with. It doesn't always workout that the first person you meet, fall in love and marry, that it will last forever. Things happen in life, tradegies and divorce, I believe it to be the fore runners. Does it mean life stops or do you bury your head in the sand and pretend it didn't happen? No, of course not, you have to heal from the loss and pain before you can move forward. Did you know that you go through a grieving process after a divorce very much like grieving the death of one? In both, cases you loose the person you thought that would be your forever person. Through this experience you are able to have understanding and comapassion for the other's pain and loss. The healing process I feel is the same in both situations, you're trying to come to terms with thought that your forever person is no longer your forever person. Healing opens you up to find and recieve love again. Sometimes, we meet people before were healed and become scared and overwhelmed by their love. In such a situation, it can be confusing for the one partner, not fully understanding why they are shunned and pushed away. Communication is key, it can open up a line of communication where both can safely and unjudgementally express their pains, fears and concerns. That's how relationships are built, step-by-step, very much like building a structure. Women and men are the foundation of a structure called a relationship. I'm not saying that the man and woman will understand everything, be perfect or won't have conflict, but it helps to have a listening ear and you can help each other through this grieving process. Communication especially, painful and traumatic experiences, it helps two broken people deepen their bond and trust for each other as well as strengthen the relationship.