masquerade

Why do we treat a relationship like a masquerade? We try to hide who we really are, why? If you seek a relationship wouldn't you rather the other person know who you really are? Otherwise, why bother with a relationship. If you are not happy with aspects of yourself, then you should change those things about yourself that you dont like. Chances are you hide your true self, you were probably deeply hurt, abandoned or even betrayed by someone in your past. I would would hope that you'd want to spare anyone else that kind of pain. Instead the deeply hurt are only focused on themselves and how they feel. This might be a news flash to some but being in a relationship is about making each other feel safe, secure and comfortable in each others company. There should be no secrets, no lying, no deceit, there should be love and compasion for one another. I understand that the hurt maybe deep but then you there has to be some self healing. It isn't fair to the other person that they should be dragged through anyones painful abyss, you never know what hell they crawled out of. In a relationship you do share each other's pain to some degree but if your unable to break free from the clutches of that painful abyss, then counseling maybe be the help you need to set yourself free.