sneaky business

Trust is a very fragile thing and like broken glass, you can fix it but it won't be the same. Likewise, in a relationship, you can rebuild trust but it won't be the same. Many may not think that sneaking around would be a trust breaker and not only that it's a lack of respect for the partner and the relationship. People know when they are doing something wrong and deceitful, that's why they sneak around so that they don't get found out. Sadly, the sneaky person only undermines themselves because they assume that if a parnter doesn't react or speak up about it that they have gotten away with it. Nothing damages a relationship more that sneaking around because in essence it's a form of lying, being deceitful and disrespectful to their partner. What ever happened to, "truth is the best policy?" I still think the truth is the best way to go because you don't have to be stressed about, "what if they find out", there would be peace of mind. Sneaking makes a person anxious, fearful,stressed because they are always having to look over their shoulder and continually cover their tracks. Additionally, it undermines the relationship dynamic. If you have to sneak around and lie about things then it's obvious that this person lack emotional maturity to be able to be truthful and honest. A relationship is between two more people and if you can't trust each other then what do you have? The purpose of a relationship especially a romantic one, is to be able to feel safe to confide, trust and be vulnerable with one another. My final thoughts are that if someone has to resort to lying, sneaking around and constantly convering their tracks then you obviously aren't serious about the relationship or the person they are with.