Buried in sand

Have you ever been in a relationship with an avoidant? In reality they aren't mentally and emotionally ready or equipped to be in a intimate relationship with someone. I feel some avoidants are very much like an ostrich. It's like the myth that when an ostrich gets scared or overwhelmed they bury their heads in sand. Avoidants are kind of similar, they will bury themselves in work, hobbies or anything that will distract them from what they truly are feeling. What makes it extremely hard the non-avoidant person gets left out in the cold making them feel rejected and abandoned. Sadly, this is a cycle that keeps repeating until maybe someday the avoidant realizes that's a very toxic way to live. Many allow their ego/pride from taking accountability and to seek counseling. This self-sabotaging behavior develops into a repeated cycle that will ultimately keep them in a perpetual state of pain, regret and unhappiness. I feel sad for these persons having this avoidant behavior because they get caught in this repetative cycle. I too was in that type of cycle and one day I realized that not only was I hurting people around me with my toxic behavior but I was only making myself more miserable and unhappy. Admitting you have a problem and getting help for it isn't for the faint of heart it takes determination and a strong will to want to break the vicious cycle.