Balance

Sometimes your in a relationship a job, romantic, family, or friendship, where there's a imbalance of pouring into that relationship. To make any type of relationship grow there's has to be a balance of give and take. If one is the only one pouring into the relationship this eventually causes a breakdown of that relationship. What I mean by "pouring into", by being emotionally, physically and mentally available. Meaning showing up emotionally through giving affection creating a bond and not only giving it when it's convenient, mentally by being supportive and not by controlling or manipulating because you hope to gain something out of it but to build a sense of safety and physically being fully present in mind, spirit, body and soul by not indulging in or seeking external pleasures outside of the relationship. There has to be exclusivity in a committed relationship. Anything that distracts attention and focus from the relationship is a betrayal of trust and will lead to the breakdown and eventually the destruction of that relationship. Trust is part of the foundational pillars in building a strong lasting relationship. If there's no trust there's nothing because that relationship is then built on shifting sand based on deception and lies. Those involved in the relationship, there has to be a daily mutual and intentional choosing of each other. Additionally, there has to be a mutual desire achieving and maintaining equilibrium in that relationship. What I mean is mutually there has to be deep emotional conversations to clarify what present and future goals are for that relationship. Without that clarity then what's the reason to invest time and energy into something that not leading or heading anywhere. Otherwise it like a dog chasing its tail, the dog just goes in circles but never goes anywhere. There has to be growth in the relationship, just like a baby grows, learns to talk and walk, eventually learning to care for themselves. If a relationship doesn't grow then what's the purpose of it?