silent shift
A person's silence or shift in energy shouldn't be taken lightly. Are you the type of person that waits till an anvil hits you in the face? Do you care to ask and find out what is happening with that person? Well, maybe that is the problem, may there is no care to find out because you just don't care. That in itself is a answer a type of closure. If someone doesn't care to find out why there was a shift in energy or silence then it shows that you never mattered to them. It also shows that you were just a placeholder for the "what if I find something better". Frankly, I don't give a damn for people that play games and try to manipulate others. I really feel strongly about it because all my life I have encountered people like that. Are there any decent honest human beings anymore? I seriously am starting to think that there isn't but the hope in me tells me that there are kind, honest, faithful people out there that are willing to fully commit to another. Honestly, yea it's a big step but if you feel it in the depths of your soul that, that is your person, so why would you f*** around and toy with someone else's hope, dreams and feelings? Are people really that emotionally detached that they feel nothing about what they are doing to another person mental and emotional well-being? I have not answers except that if that is the case that you're so emotionally detached and too caught up in your own self and wanting to be by yourself, even though you’re in a so called relationship, then be by yourself for real and leave the other person alone so that they can look for someone that is actually serious and legitimately wanting to be in a fully committed relationship. None of that, I’m not sure, I only care about me and my happiness, I'm not ready, I don’t see that far into the future and other things are my priority junk. I know I have ranted about this before and this time it hits personal and close to home. Personally, I wouldn't have any problems moving out of a situation like that. At it's foundation it's mental and emotional abuse and nobody should be subjected to it. Personally I've endured more of it than I care to admit. It's cowardly to treat someone like that because these type of people lack the courage to either fully commit or end the relationship. Meanwhile the other person is supposed to wait for this person to get their sh*t together. Listen, nobody is perfect but at some point you have to put on your grown-up pants and accept accountability for bad behaviors and either work on yourself or seek help to work through it. Shockingly, I'm not perfect (being a bit sarcastic), I have worked a lot on myself and of course, I still have so much more to work on but at least am adult enough to accept that and admit that. These persons just don't work on themselves and try to dim their light and rather that using that light to take themselves out of the darkness, they act like that drowning person that drags the rescuer under causing them both to drown. In the end the other person will conitnue pushing people away until they walk away, this way they get to play the victim after they've lied, manipulated, betrayed and used you.