emotionally broken

Emotionally broken people in my life experiences tend to push people away and shut down emotionally because of their pain. They are to some degree blinded to the fact that they have loving supportive people around them and often they retreat into a cocoon. Since they isolate themselves so much they forget or just don't learn how to interact with people on an emotional level. At the sign of an emotion arising they run away not necessarily physically but mentally they run into their safe room in their mind. When they do this it leaves people wondering and in a state of confusion. I think the hardest for them is intimate relationships since it requires them to open up and be vulnerable with another person and this terrifies them. Honestly, they don’t realize that's pretty normal, what's not normal is pushing people away just because they don't know how to cope and process those intense emotions. This pushing away is hurtful to the other person and if only they were able to open up and explain then perhaps between both they could work through it. I suppose a imporant factor to working through it together is knowing the root of that fear. Sometimes working it through with someone doesn't feel so isolating and alone but may require some counseling, perhaps counseling as a couple. I mention counseling because sometimes the fear is so deep that it requires a bit of outside help but is sought as a couple it becomes less scary and both can learn how to help the healing process.