cell block

I find that the mind is like a prison cell block. There are many cells or compartments where you can hide many things from unpleasant memories, emotions, feelings, pain and fears. Often people escape the painful memories by sticking into one of these cells because of the inability to deal with it. The problem with that is by placing into there you are never really dealing with it or healing from it. Likewise, with emotions and any type of feelings dealing with intimacy and/or vulnerability. It is my belief that the person could have been betrayed, abandoned, or hurt so they learn to hide your emotions and feelings. Also, sometimes people are just taught early in childhood that it's weak to show feelings, emotions or to show outwardly affection. This creates problems down the line when in a romantic relationship with someone. If your taught not to express emotions, feelings or have a safe environment where you can be vulnerable with another, it can leave a romantic partner feeling neglected, confused and rejected. Personally, I feel that in a romantic relationship you should be able to express with one another intimacy by the showing of affection, expressing emotions and feelings. In that type of partnership you should be building a safe environment for the other to be vulnerable. The ability to be vulnerable with another person makes the partner feel safe and secure in the relationship.