Acts of love

Love has always been easy for me to show. I can attribute that to my family and observations of others. Not everyone knows how to show love. I've known people that have been brought up and taught that expressing affection and love is bad and I think this is deeply damaging to a person because they were never able or allowed to express their feelings or outwardly affection. This is why they distance themselves or avoid anything having to do with feelings or to show any outward affection. They are a type of avoidant that goes emotionally from “hot” to “cold” because the feelings they feel are overwhelming to them. For an avoidant, emotions are foreign to them because they were taught not to express outwardly affection. Communication might be easier for some avoidants since they can keep conversations safe like talking about the weather or sports. Acts of love, is something not easily expressed in a romantic relationship but it is important for building a intimate connection with their partner. In my opinion avoidants learned early in life that showing affection and love was bad or a sign of weakness. On the other hand, I believe love and affection can be re-learned because we never really forget it, we just learn to suppress it.