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How long would a serious romantic relationship last without expression of feelings and/or affection from an avoidant partner? Expressing feelings, emotions and affection, gives peace of mind, and creates a sense of security and reassurance in the relationship, without it the relationship would deteriorate. Initially the one involved with the avoidant, might not realize what is happening because the avoidant will love bomb their partner and somewhere down the course of the relationship that brief expression of affection and feelings will just STOP. Just like that! Suddenly, you first wonder if you did something wrong to the avoidant, but once you carefully analyze what transpired you realize you did nothing wrong. Instead, you did everything right but your avoidant got scared and overwhelmed by the emotions and affection they are feeling for their partner. So my question to any avoidant, how long do you think the relationship will last under those conditions? Are you purposefully self-sabotaging the relationship because of emotional immaturity? After all, you (the avoidant) wanted a relationship because you wanted to be loved and cared for by another, instead of reciprocating you push your partner away. The avoidant would benefit from seeking counseling to help break the cycle of this fear induced push and pull behavior that keeps repeating over and over. Counseling could also help show how to function and cope with feelings and emotions in a more constructive rather than a destructive way. Why would you (the avoidant) start a relationship with someone just to hurt them, disappoint and play with anothers feelings and emotions? I'm not saying that both partners have to be all over each other all the time but there definetly should be a showing or expression of feelings and affection. Both partners have to work at the relationship but often the avoidant doesn't reciprocate or contribute the same energy that the partner puts into the relationship and therefore, it becomes one sided. Avoidants are aware that they are avoidants and this seems very selfish, uncaring, cold and calculated to start a relationship with someone, especially when you (the avoidant) know that you are incapable and fearful of expressing feelings or showing any kind of emotions. This is a huge disrespect, manipulative, and it's a form of emotional abuse. The avoidant might have gone through some things in their life but it doesn't give them the right to mess around and play games with another persons feelings, emotions or mental peace.