Grieving

I had never realized how many ways a person can grieve until I got divorced. I always thought that grieving was strictly when you lost someone to death. I learned through my own experience that grieving, in it’s core essence, is dealing with the loss of a relationship not only to death but also divorce. I am not sure if losing someone to death or divorce is any more or less painful. Many people in this world have lost their spouse to death. Sometimes people keep themselves in a perpetual state of grieving. If we don’t try to cope with the loss we can get stuck and push those around us away. It’s almost like we self sabotage any relationship because of the fear of losing someone again. This pain can become a crutch and excuse to keep ourselves in a state of pain and unhappiness. I know that personally it was very painful losing a over 28 year relationship, thankfully I had my girls that helped me get through that painful chapter in my life. It helps when you have a support system where you can talk or just cry unto someone shoulder as they try to give you words of encouragement or just a heart felt hug.